‘Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?’
‘That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,’ said the cat.
‘I don’t much care where….’ said Alice.
‘Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,’ said the cat. (Alice in Wonderland, Lewis Carroll)
I wonder, are you at least a bit like Alice? Or do you know which way you ought to go?
For me, those are two very key and associated questions, crying out for essential responses: focus and action.
You see, without focus on an outcome or burning desire, how the heck do you know which way to go? It reminds me of the traveller that arrived on an island that had no signposts: he would reach is destination eventually, after many wrong turns and retracing of steps and starting over. But at least he knew his destination. Do you? Of course even without signposts, our traveller would have done better if he had a map. If know know your outcome, then a map can come in handy. You just need to list or sketch out the route; at least the start and end points. Or use the subconscious GIS/ sat-nav which came with your model, free of charge, on delivery. That’s right, at birth. Your subconscious mind will guide you if you give it a desired destination.
But of course, knowing where you are going is only the start point. You need to take action. You need to step out on your journey. That means breaking your routemap up into achievable chunks or breakpoints, if you like, that enable you to measure your progress. Of course, even with a map or using your sat-nav, you will take wrong turnings (make decisions that turned out not be the best). But that’s life. And what happens when the road ahead is blocked or you get diverted because of roadworks. Well, the key is to persist, remain focussed and take the diverted route till you get back on track.
So, where are You going?
I thought I would write about Procastination – but maybe I’ll do that next week 🙂 Just kidding – so here goes…
Why put off till tomorrow what you can do today? Well, maybe you’re not sure if it’s the right thing to do. Sound familiar? Maybe you suffer from Procastination. Here are some of my favourite quotes which may help you put this in conext:
I’m going to stop procastinating, once I get around to it. – Anonymous
Tomorrow is often the busiest day of the week – Anonymous
You pile up enough tomorrows, and you’ll find you’ve collected a lot of empty yesterdays. – Professor Harold Hill (The Music Man)
All things come to those that wait, but when they come they’re out of date. – Anonymous
I’m sure you can think of a few more.
Dictionary.com defines ‘to procastinate’ as “to defer action; delay: until an opportunity is lost“. That’s right, another lost opportunity. So seize the day, seize the moment, in fact seize any time other than tomorrow or next week or month or year…
And what does that mean for you? Well, you need to take action. Of course action can include planning – in fact that’s a very good place to start (remember the 5Ps – Proper Preparation Prevents Poor Performance). Knee-jerking from one task to the next will lead to a similar outcome to Procastination – you don’t or won’t get what you want. Nevertheless the point is that you need to get going, without delay, otherwise, as the Korean Proverb suggests, ‘put off for one day and ten days will pass’. Imagine what a focussed effort can achieve in 10 days. Taking Action.
So what are you waiting for?
‘And now the end is near and so I face….’ well, actually a very bright future. Final day on the Mind Alchemy course but the consensus is that this is really only the ‘end of the beginning’. The Group, through Facebook and Steven Aitchison’s CYT blog will stay and grow together.
This has been an intensive but fabulous and very inspiring month’s journey. I’ve commented before about Steven’s gritty and down-to-earth approach and this has been a big part of the success of this course.
I was familiar with a lot of the content but I undoubtedly now have a refreshed focus and desire to advance. Writing everyday has been challenging, and I’d like to thank everyone who has visited (including the silent majority), especially my regular commenters. 😉
We have looked at outcomes, values, emotions, guided visualisations, relaxation, gratitude and, of course the need to take action. There has been none of that guru mumbo-jumbo here.
I practice stilling my mind together with relaxation (good going for a guy known as ‘road-runner or ‘Tasmanian devil’!) and feel a calmness and control as I move forward on my outcomes every day. More importantly, I have made some very good friends along the way. And for me, that’s what this life is all about; caring, sharing, helping each other out.
Imagine all the people living fulfilled lives, overflowing with contentment, their dreams a reality, and no more fear or anxiety, or low-confidence and lack of self-belief… I can, what about you?
Day 20 and we’re looking at Overcoming Fear. Are you afraid? Of what or who?
The good news is that fear is an illusion. That’s right, it’s a mind-created perception of a future event. Why do I know this – well the past is gone and the future isn’t here yet (doh!) so neither can hurt you in the present moment. I’m with Steven absolutely on this and one of my key teachings, based on the work of Eckhart Tolle, is The Power of Now. The other bit of really good news is that you are in control because, as you’ll recall, you have the capacity to choose. So you can choose to worry about a future event, or you can perceive it as an opportunity and plan to succeed – the choice is yours. So, for example, you can be filled with fear of sitting exams, or you can work hard and plan to do well. This of course will also bring other development tools into play like mind-movies, visualising outcomes and preparing (and sticking to) your action plan.
You should also learn to enjoy and Live in the present moment. I’m reminded of a Reiki teaching that goes something like, ‘today is a gift that’s why it’s called the present’.
Steven recommends that you deal with fear by asking the following questions:
What is the fearful event or situation?
What’s the worst that can happen?
What’s the best that can happen?
What is the middle ground of the two?
I would adjust this slightly to: identify a particular future event of which you are afraid (remembering that this is a mind-created illusion), recognise your desired outcome, visualise this then plan to succeed.
Easy. Well, only with practice, actually.
So what are you afraid of? – The big, bad wolf?